Have You Crossed The Line?
Have You Crossed The Line?
How can you tell if you've crossed the line?
How Can You Tell if You've Crossed the Line?
How Do I Take Action?
The Costs of Crossing the Line
How Can You Tell if You've Crossed the Line?
It's simple. You've crossed the line if you've ever used abuse or violence to control a situation or person in your relationship. So ask yourself these questions:
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If you answered "yes" to any of these, it's time to take action.
How Do I Take Action?
In any relationship, there's going to be differences and arguments. And no-one expects that you'll never get angry. But how you deal with the situation is entirely up to you.
The first step is to acknowledge that your behaviour is abusive. As long as you tell yourself that 'It's OK', 'It's not that bad' or 'It's not really hurting anyone', you'll keep causing physical and emotional harm to your loved ones.
Next, you need to start recognizing when you're in danger of losing control - you'll need to look for signs, for example, maybe you clench your fists or your heart starts racing.
If you feel like you're about to lose it, use self-talk to calm down. If this doesn't work, walk away and clear your head. But there are no quick fixes. Changing patterns of control and abuse isn’t easy.
Click here to seek help from those with the right skills and experience.
The Costs of Crossing the Line
If you continue to choose to use violence and abuse in your relationship, there are a number of likely consequences. They include:
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Last updated: Friday, July 02, 2010
